Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

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Well, for women readers, have you ever had trouble understanding the hearts, thoughts and feelings of men? For male readers, have you ever felt confused about the mind, heart and mood that easily changes from a woman?

In my third post this time, I will a little bit review of the American author relationship counselor, John Gray's book entitled Men Are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

Once upon a time, Martians met Venusians. They fall in love and make happy relationships because they respect each other and accept their differences. Then they arrived on Earth and began suffering from amnesia. They forget that they are from different planets.

With this metaphor as an illustration of a common quarrel between men and women, John Gray explains the emergence of differences between the two sexes, which interfere with the creation of complementary love relationships. Here are some differences that occur between men and women in a relationship.

MARS & VENUS WHEN FACING PROBLEMS

Martian gets upset he never talks about what is bothering. He becomes very quiet and goes to his private cave to think about his problem , mulling it over to find a solution. When he has found a solution, he feels much better and comes out of his cave.Venus becomes upset or is stressed by her day, to find relief, she seeks out someone she trusts and then talks in great detail about the problems.

When a man is stuck in his cave women think he is powerless to gives his partner the quality attention she deserves. It is hard for her to be accepting of him at these times because she doesn’t know how stressed he is. She feels he is ignoring her. Venusian will assumes he doesn’t care about her because he isn’t talking to her. 

When women talks about problems, men usually resist. A man assumes she is talking with him about her problems because she is holding him responsible. He doesn’t realize that she is talking to feel better. A man doesn’t know that she will appreciate it if he just listens.

***For a men learn to listen without feeling blamed or responsible. She just wants to talk about her problems and that’s make her to relax.

***For a woman learn to understand that a men going to his cave wasn’t not sign that he didn’t love you. He just need to be alone and find the soultion by himself.

MARS & VENUS WHEN SPEAKING

When the Martians and Venusians first got together, they encountered many of the problems with relationships we have today. Because they recognized that they were different, they were able to solve these problems. One of the secrets of their success was good communication.

You see the Martian and Venusian languages had the same words, but the way they were used gave different meanings. Their expressions were similar, but they had different connotations or emotional emphasis.

Woman speak with dramatic language implied a particular request and men speaking rationally.

Men and women seldom mean the same things even when they use the same words. For example, when a woman says "I’m okay” that’s means that the woman was having a problem. The men mean that word is that woman just fine and have not a problem. After that women do not speak anything to him. However when a men will say something brief like "It's nothing" or "I am OK." A woman may respond "I know something's wrong. What is it?" These brief signals are generally the only way a Venusian knows to give him space to work out his feelings alone.

The conclude from me is for woman and men should changes small to the habit in communication but  without forfeiting traits of their own right.

MARS & VENUS SHARE THEIR FEELINGS

Men are like rubber bands. When they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back. A rubber band is the perfect metaphor to understand the male intimacy cycle. This cycle involves getting close, pulling away, and then getting close again.Certainly a man may pull away for the same reasons, but he will also pull away even if she has done nothing wrong. He may love and trust her; and then suddenly he begins to pull away. Like a stretched rubber band, he will distance himself and then come back all on his own.

A woman is like a wave. When she feels loved her self-esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. When she is feeling really good, she will reach a peak, but then suddenly her mood may change and her wave crashes down. If she has suppressed any negative feelings or denied herself in order to be more loving on the upswing of her wave, then on the downswing she begins to experience these negative feelings and unfulfilled needs. During this down time she especially needs to talk about problems and be heard and understood.

So this is need good communication, tell to the woman not to be worried or offended by ensuring that they will return in time. Women must resist the temptation to try to pull their partners back quickly or criticize them for their natural behavior so far.

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One of the most difficult challenges in our loving relationships is handling differences and disagreements. Often when couples disagree their discussions can turn into arguments and then without much warning into battles. Suddenly they stop talking in a loving manner and automatically begin hurting each other: blaming, complaining, accusing, demanding, resenting, and doubting.

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